Unkempt #15 - FOUR MONTHS TEXT
Tim Coyne is just a guy, on a scooter, with big dreams, looking for love. For Tim and “the hot chick”, love was a four month word. Running time 6:09
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What is the background music?
Titanic.
I couldn’t resist. I hope to get a friend to compose some music at some point but it’s a tall order and a difficult assignment.
Hope you enjoyed it.
Tim
Tim, you’re killing me man.
Looking at your life from the outside gives us listeners a unique perspective. I tuned into your podcast about 15 episodes after you got started and I had to go back and catch them all. You are an extremely intuative and talented interviewer and I have enjoyed your choice of topics/guests/anicdotes/etc. (your Smartbomb interview helped me land a great game client) You enjoy celebrity status out here, if not in your own mind. You remind me of my own youth and of all those roads not taken.
If you were a friend of mine we’d be having the “what the f**k are you thinkin’!?” conversation complete with loving buttkicking. You could have it all, but you are constantly sabotaging yourself with your fear of success. You do deserve to be happy. You do deserve to succeed. You DO deserve the hot chick.
Now GO swallow your pride, accept that someone loves you for who you are, apologize your ass off (with flowers and a poem), ’cause life’s too short — and go get your woman back, doofus!
I might still listen if you do, ’cause I can guaran-f**king-tee you your work/life will be better with her than without her.
Thanks anyway for the wild ride and fabulous interviews.
Tim-
This was great! You are an innovator of Podcasting for sure. First the song, now this! Great, great work!
I like how you got a new phone towards the end there too.
Keep up the awesome work.
I love you.
Grant
hey tim,
long time listener. great work. your episodes get better and better. what better way to sum up you’re relationship with “the hot chick” than with this episode. must’ve been quite a release for you to put this together. i hope your transition isn’t too renching…
question for ya’: what are your goals?… specifically… would you feel comfortable discussing them in detail on the show? i think we all know the general answer to that question… but i’m just wondering if you think it might be a help to get specific… you know, step by step… or to rephrase/ what are you doing now to get you to where you want to be?
I’m going through very similar circumstances/personal and professional. for me, the hardest part seems to be making the decision to make decisions…
hope you’re keeping happy… and keep creating.
p.s. do you think i’d be able to get the black scooter hoodie in size small?
That was strangely intoxicating…
Honestly, I love the unkempt stories, and would love to hear more of them…
NCN
Jeez, I felt like a fueling voyeur, watching that.
Tim,
Get yourself a life and get her back. You sound like you have self imploaded man. Almost all that texts were great, magic, and you have pushed her away.
Sorry to be so blunt, but what do you want in life, and also what are you doing to her? sort it!
Hey Stephen! It makes you feel any better, I sent her flowers on Valentines Day. I take your comments about “fear of success” very seriously. I hope that’s not me but maybe it is. Tough to figure out. Anyway. Thanks.
Grant,
Great to hear from you. Your words mean a ton to me. Hope all is well.
NCN,
Hey! Great to hear from you. It’s been a while. Hope to have more “Unkempt” stuff soon. Gotta live and see what happens next. Still struggling with the “hot chick” stuff. Hard to know what to do.
Beth,
You are a fueling voyeur. Glad you’re still with me.
Graham,
You are hardcore! I love it. Dude. I’m trying to “sort it”. This shit ain’t easy. Keep the “blunt” talk coming. I’m struggling man!
Tim
Tim
Beautiful.
I have lots of advice that I’m withholding from you.
Tom
Yo Tom!
Thanks!
Feel free to unload that advice on me.
Tim
w’sup homie!? can a brotha’ get a response?
Yo Michael! Shit! I’m so sorry I didn’t reply to your post.
I think your idea about clearly stating my specific goals, in detail, is something I need to do. I’m not sure if it would be interesting for a show but I need to do it. If I can figure out an interesting way to do it within the show then maybe I will. It’s very easy to get caught up in the day-to-day without really putting a game plan into action. Hmmm. Like the “4 month” thing, saying things out loud sometimes makes you commit and stick with it.
Re: the hoodie. Absolutely! You can purchase through the store link. I don’t actually have them on hand. Spreadshirt handles my store so I don’t have to spend any money to have a bunch of items.
Thanks Michael!
thanks! good luck and contiued success with the show!
Thanks Michael!
Just a thought. if you would have stuck with your first plan (6 months)would you still be with her?
Do you think that it is possible to place a time frame on love? “4 month relationship”
or do you think that our capacity to love increases only when we are willing to give up enough of ourselves to free up space for someone else, and allow them to love us back without pretention.
This chick really digs you man and in a city where everything has to do with what you have and dont have, Bro you met the one woman in L.A. that does not care about the shit and sees you for the person that you are. How often do you find that in this city?
remeber what i said love is either black or white, it cant be manipulated, put in a box , or given a timeframe.
you need to get THAT GIRL BACK.
Thanks Ish
Ish,
The “Four Month” thing was the spark. I would have stayed forever if . . . .
If.
The second thing you said gives me pause. I’m not sure if I gave enough of myself. I feel like I did but maybe I didn’t. I gave as much as I could right now, where I am this moment in my life.
You’re killing me.
Tim
hi there tim
if i was in l.a. now i would want to hug you (for comfort) and hit you (for being so “self-obsessed”) at the same time!
i sincerely hope that you don’t realise later on in your life, that you only gave as much as you wanted to right then, not as much as you could.
H Allan.
Yup. LA and Self Obsession are a package deal.
Here’s the deal.
I do feel like I gave all that I could but it wasn’t enough. Years will go by and I’ll change and get better hopefully. Or maybe I’m just not enough for her but I am enough for somebody else.
I definitely did step up in a lot of ways and in other ways I think she was (and is) disappointed.
Tim
After reading Allan’s comment I gotta say:
Of what we know of your relationship I think that you both did what you were capable of which isn’t to say that you can or cannot give or take more or less from someone else, every relationship and it’s dynamics are different. Had The Hot Chick been The Hot Chick #2 instead who knows what would have happened, you might not have even reached 4 weeks.
You had a chemistry between you and ultimately it seems that it’s not enough to sustain a relationship. Nothing wrong with that and nothing wrong with how much you did or didn’t give because as a voyeur it seems like you both gave a lot.
Hey Allan!
Forgot to thank you for the cyber hug. Thanks!
Yea Ross. We did have a LOT going for us - chemistry, etc. Still hard to know exactly why it’s over.
Thanks for caring - Alan and Ross
Tim,
I first found out about you when you did a performance live at the the Dr Floyd/LA Podcasters event at the past Podcast Expo. You talked about the text message “you fuckin rock” and that night came back when that message came up in the video.
I would have to pile on and pass along the same advice as most of the comments… GET THE HOT CHICK BACK!
Mike,
I’m going to put you on the list of people who have been telling me to get my head out of my ass.
On another note, I’m surprised you checked me out because I had a tough night that night at the Expo. Whoa.
Hope you stick around.
Tim